June 20, 203 – Romans 14:1-12
The late Rev. Billy Graham was once quoted as saying, “It’s God’s job to judge, the Holy Spirit’s job to convict, and it’s our job to love.” When we get those roles mixed up is when we lose our way.
In all my years of ministry, I’ve rarely, if ever seen someone judged into the Kingdom of God. Someone who, after being shamed or put in their place for a choice (even if contradictory to God’s Word), decided to take a step of faith or to repent. I’ve also never seen anyone repent or turn from their ways because someone tried to convict them on their own. Have I seen thousands of people be convicted THROUGH the power of God’s Word? Absolutely. But that was after the Holy Spirit had been moving in their hearts, not from any power of the human vessel. At the same time, I’ve seen thousands of lives changed through the power of love. That is the greatest power Jesus has given us.
In Romans 14:1, Paul writes, "Accept the one whose faith is weak, without quarreling over disputable matters." Acceptance isn’t saying the other person doesn’t have room to grow. Instead, it shows a level of humility, an understanding that God chose to accept you with all of your flaws and weaknesses, just as he will accept the other person you’re tempted to judge. I’ve rarely seen debate over issues change someone’s heart, but I’ve seen time and time again how our love and acceptance of others melts even the heart of stone. Is there a time and place to speak the truth — absolutely. But truth spoken without love will fall on a hardened heart and deaf ears.
In our interactions with others, Paul challenges us to ask the question, “What battles am I truly called to fight today? Do I need to convince everyone of where they are wrong, judging and shaming their behavior?” Or, is a better question “Where have you called me to speak the truth in love today? Who would benefit from knowing they are seen, heard, and accepted?” Ultimately, do you trust that God is the judge to which everyone (including ourselves) will give account to someday (v.12)? Where can you let go, and let God?
Questions for reflection:
- Who are the people or the situations where you find yourself most susceptible to judging others? Are there certain patterns of behavior you find yourself falling into that need to be confessed to God?
- Instead of judging others, what are some ways we can “speak the truth in love?” If you were being confronted or challenged, how would you want someone to address you?